Touch for Health Level One

Touch for Health Level One offers students amazing insights and adds everyday tools & tips to their wellness tool box.

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Touch for Health™ Course Syllabus as approved by the International Kinesiology College <IKC>, depending on your level of education or current career this IKC certificate program may cover your continuing education requirements with a fun and useful addition to your skill set.

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Touch for Health Level 1 (15 hours) covers the following:
Opposing Muscle Theory/Triangle of Health
Accurate Muscle Testing
Switch On – K27, CV24 & GV27, GV1+Navel
Water Check / Central Meridian Check / Permissions
Cross Crawl for Fun
General Meridian Massage
Origin/Insertion Technique
Bilateral Muscle Correction Technique
Emotional Stress Release
Strengthening with Foods
Visual Inhibition & Auricular Exercise
Surrogate Testing
Simple Pain Techniques – running meridians, feathering
Posture Awareness, Goal Balancing

14 Muscles:
Teres Major
Pectoralis Major Clavicular
Latissimus Dorsi
Gluteus Medius
Teres Minor
Anterior Deltoid
Pectoralis Major Sternal
Anterior Serratus
Fascia Lata

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This is a life changing course where students receive the tools listed above and after completing the course can use it for personal or professional applications.

When I first signed up for  level one of Touch for Health it was just for myself and for my family, but after completing it and working with fellow students during the class, I could see the benefits of using it outside of my family and decided to start creating a clientele.

Now I love seeing how many lives are transforming weekly through being exposed to this acquired skill set.

Touch for Health level one is very effective for increasing wellness, improving the posture and food needs for an individual.

Touch for Health Synthesis is all about empowering people to have more control and understanding about how  body’s systems work, how to encourage the innate healing powers that we are all born with and most importantly the signs of imbalances by bio feed back <muscle testing> using a 14 muscle balancing protocol.

It’s amazing what can happen when we are able to learn how to set a specific goal and then test these specific muscles to locate the imbalance in the body, correct it and let the body grow forward with a new level of normal surrounding the specific goal.

Touch for Health level one is for anyone that wants to learn and  be open to the possibilities that this course can offer the willing.

Click here to register for Touch for Health level one 

Make it a great day and be sure to check out free videos on
ESP Parent FB page and start your 21 day challenge, this is just a tiny taste test of what Touch for Health level one tools have to offer you

Until next time live with less stress and more love :)
Rochelle McFarlane, ESP Parent Founder

Touch for Health, What is it ?

With all the questions about what I do and what I offer in the Touch for Health realm of my practice, I figured I would share what the  Canadian Association of Specialized Kinesiology says

” Touch for Health
Touch for Health™ is a system of balancing posture, attitude, and life energy to relieve stress, aches and pains, feel and function better, be more effective, clarify and achieve your goals and enjoy your life!

In a Touch for Health™ session, muscles become monitors of stress and imbalance within the body. The concept of “muscle testing” becomes a very effective and versatile tool for detecting and correcting various imbalances in the body which may relate to stress, nutrition, learning problems, and injuries.

Touch for Health™ (TFH) was originated by Dr. John Thie, DC, a chiropractor in Pasadena, California. Dr. Thie had studied with Dr. George Goodheart, DC, the developer of Applied Kinesiology.

Dr. Goodheart had taken the study of movement (kinesiology) and added to it corrections to strengthen muscles and improve function (practical application). His system was taught to chiropractors and other professionals.

Dr. John Thie realized that these methods were extremely useful, and also simple enough for anyone to learn. He developed TFH as a program for the lay person. He wrote the book: ‘Touch for Health™’, and began teaching courses.

In the past thirty five years Touch for Health™ has experienced phenomenal growth. The book has been translated into 15 languages, and courses have been taught in 50 countries. Local groups and associations exist in many parts of the globe.

Many people have joined in developing the Touch for Health™ synthesis. New programs and systems are continually evolving. Work on nutrition, emotions, education and muscle re-education have lead to the development of many related disciplines. ”

Touch for Health came into my life over 5 years ago, I started off seeing a practitioner and love it from the start!  Not only, did I feel better but I felt that someone could really help me with my inner feelings and how they were showing up in my body.

Once I figured out how I could attend weekend workshops to learn how to do it too…. I was hooked even more!  I have watched my children benefit greatly from me having the skill set and always keeping my book handy for referencing as I worked with them….. some of things that stand out most as benefits for having these tools is the prevention, having little spots on the body to hold for seconds to minutes to relieve temper tantrums with my toddlers to helping my older sons to read better and see the letters in the right order.  I could spend the whole day here sharing more as the list grows.  I can honestly say that since I have gained Touch for Health tools over 4 years ago, there hasn’t been a day that I haven’t used them for myself or for others.

Thanks for checking out this article about Touch for Health, What is it ?

Leave a comment below about your story and interaction with Touch for Health, if you have any questions or would like to experience a session and book a class.

Please keep in mind though I am a practitioner and instructor of Touch for Health, I don’t prescribe or diagnose.



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Emotions are energy in motion and create electrical impulses within our physical body.

Over the years I’ve read it within written materials from quite a few different authors how our bodies respond to stimulus when it comes to both the emotional body and the electrical system.  It’s truly a brilliant design that works with such synergy so that we can become motivated to take action.


Emotions can help the physical body releases tension, hormones & chemicals to expel stress.

Our tears are emotionally dependent and will have a varied chemical structure depending on what emotional energy is being exuded.

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Here check out these photos I found, amazing supportive learning resources.

This is why ESP Parent believes in offering natural ways to assist the development of our emotional intelligence with personalized balancing and educational sessions in private and group settings for all ages.


Tears of ending and beginning, photo © Rose-Lynn Fisher, courtesy of the artist and Craig Krull Gallery, Santa Monica, CA Read more:

Emotions are apart of our natural ability and essence that’s wired into our beings as indicators of stress in the body, emotions are beautiful when balanced.  Observe the photos and the different patterns of dried tears when emotion and stimulus was experienced or applied, look at how the expression and chemical make  up of the tears change.


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Powerful to see how our bodies show evidence of how our emotional energy creates such an impact depending on which emotion the physical body is experiencing.

I used to think that some of the emotions, like anger and sadness, the more negative ones weren’t supposed to be engaged and it was almost wrong to have them.


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Now after great reflective studied I see how as a social
society we really just require support on how to deal with them, especially when we are parents so that we can best support the growing future.

Appreciate that you are here reading this post, I curious about what thoughts come to mind after reading this and observing the different tear structures, even how you view the idea of emotional electrical support.

Onion tears, photo © Rose-Lynn Fisher, courtesy of the artist and Craig Krull Gallery, Santa Monica, CA Read more:

Leaving off with my favorite picture with the onion formation tear pattern, reminds me of snow flakes, another mystery of nature!

Until next time live with grace and teach the future to humble, real and authentic…much love & light


Wiggle Wednesdays

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Fun for all ages and stages of movement ability

Here’s a quick post about what Wiggle Wednesday will offer you and your family.

I figured it was necessary to give some back ground & insight so you could make an educated decision and register for our program!

What you will gain

  • bonding time in a playful environment with your children
  • a safe place to workout and push yourself with your children
  • educational support about the electrical system
  • personal affirmations for your learning path and goals
  • wellness & healing support for your whole “being”
  • experience and learn about meditation
  • heart rate
  • collectively working out while building esteem & confidence while being playful with our children
  • interactive games, singing, drumming, humming
  • educational opportunity to increase immunity, co-ordination, brain functions, flexibility and mobility with movements
  • soul food and nourishment for the spirit

We will dance, laugh and experience the love of moving our bodies in a nurturing environment while we learn with our children.

Please be sure to bring water, yoga mat if possible and an open mind to possibilities.

I was just asked this the other day…

“Why were these classes created?”

Over the years I’ve been observing a missing link that was common both in my life and the lives of other parents.


How do I work out and fit self care into my already full day?


I started to see how I could offer a solution to multiple challenges that many parents face, including myself, when it comes to self care while doing the balancing act called parenting.

During my training I was formulating and creating ways for me to remember all that I was learning and taking in from the course loads by playing with my children, creating games, dances and movement flows.  This was helping support their learning plans and meeting educational scopes of their individual grade level, while making a deposit into my memory bank.  This gave us a win-win-win and leveled us all up in the area of self responsibility, not mention creating memory moments where we were deeply connecting & bonding.

Now I am excited and passionate about sharing with others and to help other families grow forward by becoming more aware about how our bodies are constantly taking “orders” via our thoughts.

Wiggle Wednesday’s is a brain child solution my creativity faculty called my imagination came up with.  With many months of fine tuning, blood sweat, tears and an emotional roller coaster of events… it’s ready to share with others that are ready and even searching for a unique soul to soul connecting class with their children.

Looking forward to sharing more, stay tuned!

Make it a great day & be healthy

Rochelle :)

The Body Electric ~ 5 Element Parenting Style

Over the past few years my ideas & beliefs about energy have been further supported and confirmed due to science proving how amazing our bodies really are.  My thinking and understanding have deepen and raised into higher realms of consciousness.  This has granted me the learning space for me to become more reflective, self observational which has resulted me being a better parent and human being.

I am excited to be sharing some insights from a practitioner parent’s view of how the 5 elements have transformed my whole life, it’s deep there lots too it and too far out for some with my gathered during educational travels.

I have always accepted that we were amazing and now with more learning, investing in myself I have witnessed miracles happen before my eyes!  One off the topic of head to share right away besides pain in the body disappearing, is expanding my personal development and seeing how I can increase the electrical flow with my body, allowing me to become a better communicator in general and far more patient with myself and others especially with my children.

First off there’s a unspoken “normal” understanding in our industry of specialized kinesiology on how our electrical energy works for us. When it comes to our work, a nourishing conceptual view with how the electrical flow happens in the body on a daily basis transforming through the time and seasons.  This inspires me greatly when thinking of how healing, connecting with others and this planet happen regardless of paying attention to it or not.  Even for those that are unaware of these concepts, pretty powerful and mind blowing.

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Now seeing how playing with the frequencies of electricity within the body by using selective movements from Touch for Health protocols at specific times of day could impact my well being and support my mental growth capacity, I have witnessed much influential shifts occurring with myself, my children and clients.

Time in general has such huge impacts on our bodies, yet I will confess that often I live outside of the parameters of time to lower my stress levels.  When I deliberately choose to execute this technique I feel grounded within myself and notice that my stress levels have decreased more than half, sometimes I find my state of being calmer than expected.

It’s like real life magic!

Both my children and clients are amazed with how something so simple like body movement can create such huge impacts on the body and mind.  In our field of work, it makes sense to us with our collected knowledge and insights of movement allows the electrical flow to increase naturally inside of us.

This brings my attention and focus to the area of time and how do we honor it on a deeper level so we can celebrate our greatness ?
The idea of time has really created a step stone and held space for me to explore more about how these electrical beings of ours are impacted by time.  How time contributes to the recipe of our beings we call “us”.  If choreographed movements create  an increase of electrical flow in our bodies as such, than what happens when we take a closer look at the time, day, and elemental influence of when we come to be?

Over the years I have always been drawn to seeing the links, patterns and relationships between people.  How our personalities are formed and how do we become to like what we like, act how we act and connect the way we do.  Studying more about what makes us unique and the same have assisted me in understanding the principle of me being both my problem and my solution in any given moment.

Seeing how “playing attention” to my thoughts first allows me to have control over my emotional electrical flow within myself.  Gathering more concepts of what makes me, me has given me a deeper energetic pull down a path to observing more about how the 5 Elements factor in when in comes to my persona constitution.  When we look at the traits of each element and how we all carry them within ourselves, how can we determine our primary element ?  Well Touch for Health has offered me help as well as looking further into the TCM explanations too.

How I confirmed for myself was honoring the time, the day and elemental energy of when I entered this world. Also looking at that information of others too, this has impacted my ability to connect with others, especially my children.  I used to feel so frustrated that out of my children, only one was really challenging my skill set.  I was always frustrated with this.  At first I just thought it was because we were so alike in personality types and that he was most like me.

On a side note, while pregnant with him I would meditate and visualize features of my unborn baby.  I did intend that this second baby of mine would be more like me as my first was always complimented for being a mini version of his father.  This would leave me feeling a little sad for not having my features showing up within him, though that was apart of my “ordering” during the first pregnancy.

Back to the honoring of time, day and elemental year of a persons entry to this world.  I have gathered much facts from the TCM side of wholistic wellness medicine where they use the pieces of information and create a broad insight of the person.  When I did mine, I found out that I was an Earth primary element and reading into the description of what makes an Earth, an Earth my mind was blown and it resonated with me greatly.  I continued to see what the rest of my family members were and patterns were adding up so correctly for my experiences.

Now it all made sense why this second son of mine was more of a challenge!  Guess why?

Generate meaning to feed or nourish and overcome meaning to destroy or control These cycles exist in all life and seasons Photo credit to

His primary element’s mission is to control my element, his little wood roots are supposed to retain my earth energy.  Now it made sense why I could at times really feel his “roots” under my skin!

Now I choose to empower myself with this knowledge by applying it to my relationships, using the movements to create the me I want to be, that I am!  I now observe these moments of  his “root” digging and allow them to flow, taking in what I can learn about me rather than feeling like it’s a negative occurrence like I used to.  My other children are either in a feeding cycle with me, where I am nourishing them or vice versa.  Since gaining this knowledge about the 5 elements my parenting has transformed into a learning experience where my mind is open and ready to explore, empower and let the electrical flow be supported with movement, love and joy!

I really appreciate this old knowledge from the 5 elements, it’s over  3000 years old and it’s time that it’s shared with more parents, practitioners and human beings.  I believe it holds the keys to many locked doors.  While completing this article for your reading enjoyment I found these images to help explain the traits of each element compliments of

Appreciate your feedback and positive comments on how this has enlightened your life experience.

Parenting with Energy

Parenting with Energy
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Finding your personal balance is work that can empower your best and your family’s best

Too often I hear things I wish I hadn’t especially when it comes to raising the future generation, particularly when in public, the interactions between parents and children.  I coax and remind myself that learning isn’t on everyone’s agenda.  I’m using moments like this to reflect upon myself and seeing where I can grow further to be better in my own life, knowing that we all serve a unique purpose.

I believe that our Children are life assets and I am very passionate about increasing this awareness.  For we as parents get one shot with our wee ones and the future depends on our effectiveness.
I take moments through out each week to make a point of seeing how I can get better for several reasons, first off I’m perfect just not yet complete.  What was perfect today will be obsolete tomorrow for today I learned more than what I thought I knew yesterday.  Everyday my better is increased from the previous day, just the way it works.  Keeping this mindset gifts me greatly and helps keep me motivated through the rough moments.
Until you don’t know what you don’t know, life ceases to be boring and mundanely redundant where one can experience insanity.
Experiencing life through the eyes of my children keeps life fresh and the learning moments frequent, the imagination alive and me feeling younger each day.
How does this relate to energy and how it works in the body?
Well let’s take a look at the laws of attraction first.  Research has shown that where we place our attention is where our energy flows, it’s the law of attraction.
Maybe it could also be called the law of attention since energy flows to the focal point.  This can be applied to parenting in so many ways.
Like for example, this is something I hear a lot from other parents.
“I don’t have time to workout, make food from scratch, play with my children, time for a hobby etc.  My children don’t listen to me, they are out of control, I don’t know what to do etc “
Complaining about not having enough time wires the brain to see only the lack of time instead of creative ways of using time, allowing and giving permission to observe from a narrow focal point of “not enough” creating a scarcity mind set.   The mutual effect with any of the other ideas as listed above too, the brain creates the energy wave lengths to suit the thoughts and justification of complaint.
Start seeing where you are spending your time, is it on things that bring you joy or is it on things that bring you down ?  Are your thoughts bringing you closer to your desired results ?
During my parenting journey I have been learning so much about how the  energy works within the body so I can keep up with the demands of the job at hand, raising the future generation to the best of my abilities.
Learning about energy in the body on a more in depth level has been one of the greatest gifts to myself and to my family.  It’s helped me see how it all makes sense now, creating that wholistic alignment of energy within the whole being.  It’s about bringing together the thoughts, emotions, actions, all the while the body’s electrical field being apart of this formulation to create all the good in life and this experience.  Too often I have witnessed a separation in these facets and results can still be obtained but not as efficiently when all systems are on the same page.
In parenting children can sense when we are off and they soak that up, reacting to it.  Also when we are low in energy we tend to live in the world of reaction instead of pro actions.
So how do I apply this to life without getting overwhelmed and short circuiting my “breaker box”
Just like eating a huge meal, one bite at time and making sure I soak up all the nutrients in manageable pieces by chewing slowly with purpose.
For starters I make time for the things that bring me joy, keeping myself active, enjoying deeply nourishing foods, and staying hydrated !  Drinking at the very minimum of 1 fluid ounce of pure water for every 3 pounds of my body’s mass.   When stress is added into our lives, our experience we require more water.   This is a great lessons learned from when I took my Touch for Health training, there’s a link here for more information.
Hydration alone seems like such a no brainer and yet many people this is the first step that can be a simple solution in generating increased health experience.  I believe because it’s so simple many of us discount it as a valid action and not bother following through with it.
Since paying attention to our hydration levels in our family and increasing pure water, the energy has changed and has increased with ease !  Now making the connection of how water assists the body with so many functions, drinking water is now thought of as consuming more life energy in our household.  With water being a conductor, it’s pure form allows for the electrical flow in the body with ease and least amount  resistance.
Living with the seasons, seeing how they affect our daily living and respecting the cycles of the elements has been a huge eye opener as well!
I used to think that one of my children was harder to parent because he was most like me, true still yet when discovering the element flows and cycles my world changed, my understanding deepened.  Here it goes in a nutshell… Fire feeds Earth, Earth creates Metal, Metal releases Water, Water hydrates Wood, Wood fuels Fire in one cycle.  Now the opposing cycle Water doses Fire, Fire melts Metal, Metal chops Wood, Wood roots Earth and Earth drinks Water.
One of my sons and I are in a reversed flow cycle, meaning his primary element energy controls mine !  This has been such a game

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Here’s Zander and I having some fun while out for a “date”… he’s my mini me, something I can embrace with deep joy

changer discovering this.  Now instead of the struggle, I accept that it’s a natural flow of energy and consciously choose to step back and observe instead of fueling the blaze.  What do I do instead?  Glad you asked…well I get creative, calm and centered which allows the space to exist where I am only in control of myself and my energy within me.  I listen to my self talk, like what my thoughts and take back control there by choosing thoughts that will drain the fuel and increase the calm from within me first.  This step helps to create a calmer and more collected me, then I am capable of empowering
myself to deal with the situation with my son.  Where as in the past I would allow this reversed flow of energy to instigate further chaos between us where I would justify my negative reactions to his
outbursts and be a dictator like mother.  This would then drive me into a state of angry, guilt and sadness filled cycle of rage…truly not bringing out my best nor his.  I am ever so grateful for having increased my self awareness and educating myself on the five elements to create a more effective style of parenting, he is too and he’s now more aware of how we can work together in harmony as a whole family.

Life is meant to be fun and enjoyable especially when you’re a parent cause these little life assets look up to you for answers and guidance, it’s an opportunity to self educate in the fast track of vitality.  Choosing to grasp onto concepts that nourish the spirit, that suit your soul, encourage  discovery what works for you and your flow is vitally important.  It’s like an investment for your personal energy system and will pay dividends for generations to come.
Our children will mirror examples they have acquired over time from the source.
Wanting different results ?

Pour your efforts into making changes at your source, trying to augment the reflection is just a waste of time.

Curious what your thoughts are after reading this article and how it’s  brought value to your day, please add your comments below.

Specialized Kinesiology

Specialized Kinesiology is magic in my opinion!

Here’s a quick explanation about what Specialized Kinesiology is from my perspective and also from others in the field, here’s a link to share many modalities and descriptions.


Firstly with my experience, I have had healing miracles with myself and my family members, friends and clients.


Our bodies have an innate power to heal themselves and due to imbalanced energy creating resistance within the electrical flow it results in the body’s natural healing is hindered.

How do we find the resistance?

Through applying two inches of movement with two pounds of pressure for two seconds to activated muscles, this is called muscles testing or muscle monitoring.

What happens next ?

It  all depends on the findings and how the map is laid out from the client’s situation, sometimes there’s acupressure points rubbed, held or massaged, meridians ran, affirmations used and corrections can also be increase of water intake, specific foods, minerals, supplements, vitamins, emotional work just to mention a few types of what we call “corrections” applied.  There have been sessions it seems like everything is done and then there are sessions where just a small about of “correcting” is completed, no matter what happens it’s gentle and complimentary to existing efforts to heal the body.

In time I will add more about the topic of Specialized Kinesiology, in the meantime check out the reviews from others after sessions with me  here, results based on individual experiences and in no way are there are any declared guarantees or claims.

Appreciate you leaving a comment about your experience or questions about Specialized Kinesiology and be sure to check back for more helpful posts like this.



Spanking, Yes or No

This is such a huge topic that parents will come across during their parenting career.

To Spank or not Spank, that is the question… 

The other night I was inspired to make this video, watch below and make your comment here this blog post on your views


I will openly confess that I used to think that spanking was okay and totally justified it as being something that had to be done, that I had to “show” my children that I was the “boss”!  That they had to obey me and listen to me or else for this is what my vision of a successful parent was.  I thought that they were mine to control and they had to respect me or else!

With deep learning and studying from entering into the 9 Ways Program by Maggie Reigh I started to see that maybe I could change my views on the topic of discipline and the whole idea of spanking, as it always felt wrong to me and I would be left feeling guilty and torn apart on the inside… This is such a vulnerable moment putting my self out here in this post…I used to not make posts like this for fear of being judged by others, now I see that it’s time that I share from my own experiences knowing there are other parents that need help and are looking for support in the area of parenting.

Parenting can bring out the best in us and the worst in us, it’s one of the only jobs where you just don’t have the option to punch out and leave the job site.  There’s no pause or rewind, just like time it keeps on ticking.

Since taking the course years ago, I was inspired to take it again for repetition is the mother of skill and now have become a facilitator of the 9 ways program to reach more parents to help the future be the best it can be.  I started to see how using spanking was only creating respectable children that feared the physical discipline and not really respecting me as their mother.  I didn’t like how I felt either nor the look in their eye, the crying and the emotional roller coaster ride during the after effects.9 Ways

I won’t complain about my childhood for it’s created the essence of my being and now I truly understand that we can only do our best with what we know.  Spanking was something that was done to me and so I started to repeat the cycle… I understand now that I am a chain breaker and my parenting is just one area where I can break a cycle…. Spanking is one of those links that I have broken and I am celebrating.  I now feel there’s a deeper connection to my children and that they respect me because it’s their choice.  This empowers me greatly as a human being not just a mother.

I truly believe that when we have the desire to learn more, we can do better and evolve from the past.  Having this shift in my belief system has  gifted me so many opportunities to grow as a human being, a woman, a mother of 4 and a wife.

Competition can inspire us to reach for higher levels and help to create a better version of ourselves, so when it comes to parenting, it’s not about competing with our parents but to be in a position to learn from our childhood experiences and see where we can influence changes to improve the future.

I love my parents deeply and understand that they did their best from what they learned and understood what it was to be a parent from the generations before them.

After making the video for Facebook the other night, I spent some time looking for other articles to back up my thoughts about what spanking does… here are a few links that I wanted to share with you that I found interesting.  I am sure there are more articles for me to add as time goes, check them out and feel free to add in the comments below items you have on this topic.


Thank you for taking the time to consider this topic, to share with other parents that are on the fence on how to discipline their children.  We get this opportunity to impact the future by doing our best as parents, remember we are in this together



Why Play So Is Important?

When thinking about why play is so important, Maggie Reigh says it best with the following article below or read on her site here

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Most of us parents have been conditioned to focus on correcting our child’s behavior… which damages our relationship and simply frustrates both of us. Now I’m not saying that you don’t need to set guidelines, parameters and teach your child how to function effectively in all kinds of group settings.  However, your child is most likely to LISTEN to you if they WANT to listen.  It’s like the old saying goes, “They don’t care how much you know until they know how much you care.”  When we really connect with our children, in the spirit of play, they know how much we care.  The only true authority we have with them is that which they give us, based on our connection with them. Connecting with your child will set you up to be the true authority… the natural “go to” not “run from” person in their lives! If you can just realize that connecting with your child is more important than correcting your child, you will create mutual respect and harmony in your relationship.

Play offers the optimum opportunity to connect. Play is also our child’s optimum state of learning. There is a wonderful story in Michael Mendizza and Joseph Chilton Pearce’s book entitled Magical Child Magical Parent, which exemplifies how important it is to get into the stream of play with our children to most effectively educate them. It is a story (which I may have embellished in the retelling!) of a man who decides to teach his child how to kick a soccer ball.

The man’s five-year old son is so excited that Dad is taking the time to play outside with him. But, when the two of them go outside, the child doesn’t want to kick the soccer ball. In a state of pure play, he wants to pounce on the ball, roll with the ball, LICK the ball, but he doesn’t want to kick the ball!  His exasperated father grows increasingly impatient with his son. After all, he brought him outside to teach him how to kick the ball. What will the other soccer moms and dads think if his kid doesn’t learn to kick?

The authors of the book point out that this child starts out this adventure in the spirit of play. One-hundred percent of his attention is flowing into his business of play. He is in his optimum learning state. However, as he senses his dad’s impatience and annoyance, he starts to transfer some of his attention to his dad. After all, this adult means everything to him, and he doesn’t want to make him angry. So now a good portion of his attention is transferred to pleasing Dad. The boy learns to try to kick the soccer ball for his dad.

Being able to get onside with our child and join him in the stream of play is indeed an art. The joy and the value of connecting are priceless. When we can join with our child in this state of optimum learning we can gradually lead him to learn the valuable skills that we have to teach, and then we all gain so much! Few adults had parents who taught us in this manner and most of us feel awkward and inadequate with this concept. The good news is, it’s never too late to learn and, luckily, if you are a parent, grandparent or involved aunt or uncle, you have a willing teacher – your child.

Next time your child is playing, allow yourself to simply become curious about the play consciousness that she is in. Ask her if you can join her and remember to let her lead! Stay open and curious about the process and do everything you can to simply stay in the moment and share her world respectfully. Match her body language and see what you can learn from it. If you hear your inner critique pulling you away from the situation, insisting that there are “more important matters to take care of,” or telling you how silly this is, simply ask yourself if that inner critic is helping you or hurting you in your overall life plan.

If you are experiencing behavior problems with your child, it may just be that your child is crying out for this kind of real connection.  Studies out of the University of Washington indicate that parents that spend 15 minutes a day engaged in this state of play with their child substantially decrease a wide range of behavioral and learning problems.

Don’t think that the only time you can play with your children is when they are young!  As George Bernard Shaw says, “We don’t stop playing because we grow old; we grow old because we stop playing!” In my Playshops I have seen moms and daughters of all ages connect through play, in ways they hadn’t thought possible.

Here we have an opportunity to suspend our busy and cluttered adult agenda and absorb the free flow state of play that our child naturally experiences if we don’t interfere.  It is a state of being that can be life enhancing for all.

Do yourself and your child a favor for life and resolve to suspend your busy schedule long enough to playfully connect with your child every day. It’s a great way to have fun together , relieve stress and build memories that last a lifetime!

Maggie Reigh offers “Playshops” to bring out your playful self.

Here’s a few suggestions of adding to your playful side with your children throughout your day and gives you an opportunity to increase your physical activity along side your children.


Facing Fear

No what?

Facing Fear…

Wow, what a great topic for parenting.

There is so many things as a parent that we face daily when it comes to fear.

These are some of the questions and thoughts that come to my mind immediately, I am sure that I am not alone it in.

  • Am I doing this right?
  • Will they turn out to be stable adults?
  • Can I provide for all their needs?  This is more than the financial, it’s like mental support and emotional support & beyond
  • I am fit to be a parent, do I have what it takes to be responsible for another life?
  • Can handle myself in all the situations that will arise as their life unfolds?
  • Where’s the instruction manual for this job of being a parent?
  • Will it hurt to nurse my baby?
  • What if they get sick?
  • Will my baby like me and love me?
  • Can I really trust another person to love my child the way I do?
  • What will the world be like for them later in life?

As I am learning along my way I am seeing my way through these thoughts and questions, facing them with confidence and understanding that children choose their parents to help them with their path of learning in this life time they are in.  My children chose me cause I can figure this out and be what they need in life to grow into their full potential.

Though…At times…

I don’t know about you, I can say for me fear is something that can stop me in my tracks causing me to freeze into place and become stationary even stagnant.  This can happen when a trigger is activated and can be a sign of an imbalance from within the spirit, body or mind.  Figuring out which one is a mystery within itself yet completely accessible!  I have found that muscle testing has created a solution depending on the circumstances and given me great insights to what’s happening with me especially when using the information acquired on a five element chart.

Using this technique can be very useful when letting go of triggers and being able to move forward with new associations, even to the point of creating new ones and gaining closure of past experiences.

Fear can be used a motivator and catalyst to one’s personal growth, even a guide line and way to measure growth.

I once hear that FEAR is an acronym for False Evidence Appearing Real which gives validation to fear just being something that our subconscious creates for us and does an auto-fill in the blanks of the unknowns especially when doing something new, like parenting.  There are so many variables that we don’t have previous answers to reference in this new realm of life.

I have found in my experience that when fear does arise it can be a good thing and a way to guide me to best case scenarios as long as my subconscious doesn’t ask for assistance from my imagination faculty ~ there’s a time and a place when this is very serving.  That can be entertaining to a degree but that give my adrenals false alarms, creating that freezing response I mentioned earlier.

With using fear as a guideline and not an inhibitor to taking action in life, it can now be something useful for personal growth and very helpful.

Something that I have learned to do over the years now by facing my fears head on when they arise is to stop and breathe, create a wave of relaxation and identify with what’s going on with myself so I can move forward with positive results.

Here’s a recent situation that I “grew” through… see if this is something you can relate to and may you find it useful in your personal experience.

This is relates greatly to my parenting experience just as much to my work facet of my life…. I love to share what works for me and also learn from others, with what works for them.  The one thing about this, use what works for you and forget about what doesn’t work for you!  Just really that simple when it comes to living with fears and facing them so they dissolve like sand castles in the ocean waves.

Sharing my breakthrough as it happened, as I talked myself through it, thought by thought, question and answers…

  • I hear a voice in my head say what’s the point ?
  • Who are you to give advice ?
  • Who would listen to you ?

And yet I study and read about this mind chatter and how it’s important to get a hold, a solid grip of what streams through your mind and the words one chooses to speak…..
Here I am acting like a victim of my own success !

The time hasn’t halted for no one to my knowledge ….

The time has come to claim your power and gifts to use them for the goodness of others.  I can read and listen to what I’ve created, and man oh man it’s inspiring and motivating !

I can see Why my husband told me I good at talking & that I should go get paid for it !
My voice carries a soothing tone and calmness to it, something I’ve never picked up on till recently.

Comes back the question of what am I afraid of ?

Surpassing and growing out of my comfort zones, being teased or torn apart …. Not making a difference in the lives of others, having no impact for the change, staying in a state of fear
Gosh, now I see that no one matters until you give them permission and now have taken time to reflect on all the lives that I have impacted already!  With these moments I can see where my fears have served me and held me back… now I tell myself that my time has come, now just I am here to write freely and let my gift do the heavy lifting!

This is brilliant and complete …

Procrastination is a death sentence for all your dreams.  You have the power within to take action and make them come true.  Shut off the negative self talk and move into the life of your desires, be the parent that you know you can be !  It’s possible to live with amazing results by taking little steps of daily action for the results accumulate and create compound efforts daily.

I take advantage of every moment of every day, making each moment count.
I just stay in task and live with joy.
I see my accomplishments and celebrate my efforts, no matter how big or small they are!

Growing baby in a loving environment matters!

In conclusion facing fear in my parenting experience has grown me greatly and much learning has happened, still more to take place.  I feel and see the love that my children have for me, for themselves and each other.  For now that what’s most important to me and that’s all that matters.  For love can conquer any fear and get me through any challenge.   May my words bring you peace of mind and encouragement that you can do this and face your fears too!  ~ Much Love & Light Rochelle