The Body Electric ~ 5 Element Parenting Style

Over the past few years my ideas & beliefs about energy have been further supported and confirmed due to science proving how amazing our bodies really are.  My thinking and understanding have deepen and raised into higher realms of consciousness.  This has granted me the learning space for me to become more reflective, self observational which has resulted me being a better parent and human being.

I am excited to be sharing some insights from a practitioner parent’s view of how the 5 elements have transformed my whole life, it’s deep there lots too it and too far out for some with my gathered during educational travels.

I have always accepted that we were amazing and now with more learning, investing in myself I have witnessed miracles happen before my eyes!  One off the topic of head to share right away besides pain in the body disappearing, is expanding my personal development and seeing how I can increase the electrical flow with my body, allowing me to become a better communicator in general and far more patient with myself and others especially with my children.

First off there’s a unspoken “normal” understanding in our industry of specialized kinesiology on how our electrical energy works for us. When it comes to our work, a nourishing conceptual view with how the electrical flow happens in the body on a daily basis transforming through the time and seasons.  This inspires me greatly when thinking of how healing, connecting with others and this planet happen regardless of paying attention to it or not.  Even for those that are unaware of these concepts, pretty powerful and mind blowing.

Photo credit to Touch for Health Textbook

Now seeing how playing with the frequencies of electricity within the body by using selective movements from Touch for Health protocols at specific times of day could impact my well being and support my mental growth capacity, I have witnessed much influential shifts occurring with myself, my children and clients.

Time in general has such huge impacts on our bodies, yet I will confess that often I live outside of the parameters of time to lower my stress levels.  When I deliberately choose to execute this technique I feel grounded within myself and notice that my stress levels have decreased more than half, sometimes I find my state of being calmer than expected.

It’s like real life magic!


Both my children and clients are amazed with how something so simple like body movement can create such huge impacts on the body and mind.  In our field of work, it makes sense to us with our collected knowledge and insights of movement allows the electrical flow to increase naturally inside of us.

This brings my attention and focus to the area of time and how do we honor it on a deeper level so we can celebrate our greatness ?
The idea of time has really created a step stone and held space for me to explore more about how these electrical beings of ours are impacted by time.  How time contributes to the recipe of our beings we call “us”.  If choreographed movements create  an increase of electrical flow in our bodies as such, than what happens when we take a closer look at the time, day, and elemental influence of when we come to be?

Over the years I have always been drawn to seeing the links, patterns and relationships between people.  How our personalities are formed and how do we become to like what we like, act how we act and connect the way we do.  Studying more about what makes us unique and the same have assisted me in understanding the principle of me being both my problem and my solution in any given moment.

Seeing how “playing attention” to my thoughts first allows me to have control over my emotional electrical flow within myself.  Gathering more concepts of what makes me, me has given me a deeper energetic pull down a path to observing more about how the 5 Elements factor in when in comes to my persona constitution.  When we look at the traits of each element and how we all carry them within ourselves, how can we determine our primary element ?  Well Touch for Health has offered me help as well as looking further into the TCM explanations too.

How I confirmed for myself was honoring the time, the day and elemental energy of when I entered this world. Also looking at that information of others too, this has impacted my ability to connect with others, especially my children.  I used to feel so frustrated that out of my children, only one was really challenging my skill set.  I was always frustrated with this.  At first I just thought it was because we were so alike in personality types and that he was most like me.

On a side note, while pregnant with him I would meditate and visualize features of my unborn baby.  I did intend that this second baby of mine would be more like me as my first was always complimented for being a mini version of his father.  This would leave me feeling a little sad for not having my features showing up within him, though that was apart of my “ordering” during the first pregnancy.

Back to the honoring of time, day and elemental year of a persons entry to this world.  I have gathered much facts from the TCM side of wholistic wellness medicine where they use the pieces of information and create a broad insight of the person.  When I did mine, I found out that I was an Earth primary element and reading into the description of what makes an Earth, an Earth my mind was blown and it resonated with me greatly.  I continued to see what the rest of my family members were and patterns were adding up so correctly for my experiences.

Now it all made sense why this second son of mine was more of a challenge!  Guess why?

Generate meaning to feed or nourish and overcome meaning to destroy or control These cycles exist in all life and seasons Photo credit to www.travelchinaguide.com

His primary element’s mission is to control my element, his little wood roots are supposed to retain my earth energy.  Now it made sense why I could at times really feel his “roots” under my skin!

Now I choose to empower myself with this knowledge by applying it to my relationships, using the movements to create the me I want to be, that I am!  I now observe these moments of  his “root” digging and allow them to flow, taking in what I can learn about me rather than feeling like it’s a negative occurrence like I used to.  My other children are either in a feeding cycle with me, where I am nourishing them or vice versa.  Since gaining this knowledge about the 5 elements my parenting has transformed into a learning experience where my mind is open and ready to explore, empower and let the electrical flow be supported with movement, love and joy!

I really appreciate this old knowledge from the 5 elements, it’s over  3000 years old and it’s time that it’s shared with more parents, practitioners and human beings.  I believe it holds the keys to many locked doors.  While completing this article for your reading enjoyment I found these images to help explain the traits of each element compliments of www.mienshiang.com

Appreciate your feedback and positive comments on how this has enlightened your life experience.

Parenting with Energy

Parenting with Energy
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Finding your personal balance is work that can empower your best and your family’s best

Too often I hear things I wish I hadn’t especially when it comes to raising the future generation, particularly when in public, the interactions between parents and children.  I coax and remind myself that learning isn’t on everyone’s agenda.  I’m using moments like this to reflect upon myself and seeing where I can grow further to be better in my own life, knowing that we all serve a unique purpose.

I believe that our Children are life assets and I am very passionate about increasing this awareness.  For we as parents get one shot with our wee ones and the future depends on our effectiveness.
I take moments through out each week to make a point of seeing how I can get better for several reasons, first off I’m perfect just not yet complete.  What was perfect today will be obsolete tomorrow for today I learned more than what I thought I knew yesterday.  Everyday my better is increased from the previous day, just the way it works.  Keeping this mindset gifts me greatly and helps keep me motivated through the rough moments.
Until you don’t know what you don’t know, life ceases to be boring and mundanely redundant where one can experience insanity.
Experiencing life through the eyes of my children keeps life fresh and the learning moments frequent, the imagination alive and me feeling younger each day.
How does this relate to energy and how it works in the body?
Well let’s take a look at the laws of attraction first.  Research has shown that where we place our attention is where our energy flows, it’s the law of attraction.
Maybe it could also be called the law of attention since energy flows to the focal point.  This can be applied to parenting in so many ways.
Like for example, this is something I hear a lot from other parents.
“I don’t have time to workout, make food from scratch, play with my children, time for a hobby etc.  My children don’t listen to me, they are out of control, I don’t know what to do etc “
Complaining about not having enough time wires the brain to see only the lack of time instead of creative ways of using time, allowing and giving permission to observe from a narrow focal point of “not enough” creating a scarcity mind set.   The mutual effect with any of the other ideas as listed above too, the brain creates the energy wave lengths to suit the thoughts and justification of complaint.
Start seeing where you are spending your time, is it on things that bring you joy or is it on things that bring you down ?  Are your thoughts bringing you closer to your desired results ?
During my parenting journey I have been learning so much about how the  energy works within the body so I can keep up with the demands of the job at hand, raising the future generation to the best of my abilities.
Learning about energy in the body on a more in depth level has been one of the greatest gifts to myself and to my family.  It’s helped me see how it all makes sense now, creating that wholistic alignment of energy within the whole being.  It’s about bringing together the thoughts, emotions, actions, all the while the body’s electrical field being apart of this formulation to create all the good in life and this experience.  Too often I have witnessed a separation in these facets and results can still be obtained but not as efficiently when all systems are on the same page.
In parenting children can sense when we are off and they soak that up, reacting to it.  Also when we are low in energy we tend to live in the world of reaction instead of pro actions.
So how do I apply this to life without getting overwhelmed and short circuiting my “breaker box”
Just like eating a huge meal, one bite at time and making sure I soak up all the nutrients in manageable pieces by chewing slowly with purpose.
For starters I make time for the things that bring me joy, keeping myself active, enjoying deeply nourishing foods, and staying hydrated !  Drinking at the very minimum of 1 fluid ounce of pure water for every 3 pounds of my body’s mass.   When stress is added into our lives, our experience we require more water.   This is a great lessons learned from when I took my Touch for Health training, there’s a link here for more information.
Hydration alone seems like such a no brainer and yet many people this is the first step that can be a simple solution in generating increased health experience.  I believe because it’s so simple many of us discount it as a valid action and not bother following through with it.
Since paying attention to our hydration levels in our family and increasing pure water, the energy has changed and has increased with ease !  Now making the connection of how water assists the body with so many functions, drinking water is now thought of as consuming more life energy in our household.  With water being a conductor, it’s pure form allows for the electrical flow in the body with ease and least amount  resistance.
Living with the seasons, seeing how they affect our daily living and respecting the cycles of the elements has been a huge eye opener as well!
I used to think that one of my children was harder to parent because he was most like me, true still yet when discovering the element flows and cycles my world changed, my understanding deepened.  Here it goes in a nutshell… Fire feeds Earth, Earth creates Metal, Metal releases Water, Water hydrates Wood, Wood fuels Fire in one cycle.  Now the opposing cycle Water doses Fire, Fire melts Metal, Metal chops Wood, Wood roots Earth and Earth drinks Water.
One of my sons and I are in a reversed flow cycle, meaning his primary element energy controls mine !  This has been such a game

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Here’s Zander and I having some fun while out for a “date”… he’s my mini me, something I can embrace with deep joy

changer discovering this.  Now instead of the struggle, I accept that it’s a natural flow of energy and consciously choose to step back and observe instead of fueling the blaze.  What do I do instead?  Glad you asked…well I get creative, calm and centered which allows the space to exist where I am only in control of myself and my energy within me.  I listen to my self talk, like what my thoughts and take back control there by choosing thoughts that will drain the fuel and increase the calm from within me first.  This step helps to create a calmer and more collected me, then I am capable of empowering
myself to deal with the situation with my son.  Where as in the past I would allow this reversed flow of energy to instigate further chaos between us where I would justify my negative reactions to his
outbursts and be a dictator like mother.  This would then drive me into a state of angry, guilt and sadness filled cycle of rage…truly not bringing out my best nor his.  I am ever so grateful for having increased my self awareness and educating myself on the five elements to create a more effective style of parenting, he is too and he’s now more aware of how we can work together in harmony as a whole family.

Life is meant to be fun and enjoyable especially when you’re a parent cause these little life assets look up to you for answers and guidance, it’s an opportunity to self educate in the fast track of vitality.  Choosing to grasp onto concepts that nourish the spirit, that suit your soul, encourage  discovery what works for you and your flow is vitally important.  It’s like an investment for your personal energy system and will pay dividends for generations to come.
Our children will mirror examples they have acquired over time from the source.
Wanting different results ?

Pour your efforts into making changes at your source, trying to augment the reflection is just a waste of time.

Curious what your thoughts are after reading this article and how it’s  brought value to your day, please add your comments below.
Namaste

Specialized Kinesiology

Specialized Kinesiology is magic in my opinion!

Here’s a quick explanation about what Specialized Kinesiology is from my perspective and also from others in the field, here’s a link to share many modalities and descriptions.

SIPS

Firstly with my experience, I have had healing miracles with myself and my family members, friends and clients.

Why?

Our bodies have an innate power to heal themselves and due to imbalanced energy creating resistance within the electrical flow it results in the body’s natural healing is hindered.

How do we find the resistance?

Through applying two inches of movement with two pounds of pressure for two seconds to activated muscles, this is called muscles testing or muscle monitoring.

What happens next ?

It  all depends on the findings and how the map is laid out from the client’s situation, sometimes there’s acupressure points rubbed, held or massaged, meridians ran, affirmations used and corrections can also be increase of water intake, specific foods, minerals, supplements, vitamins, emotional work just to mention a few types of what we call “corrections” applied.  There have been sessions it seems like everything is done and then there are sessions where just a small about of “correcting” is completed, no matter what happens it’s gentle and complimentary to existing efforts to heal the body.

In time I will add more about the topic of Specialized Kinesiology, in the meantime check out the reviews from others after sessions with me  here, results based on individual experiences and in no way are there are any declared guarantees or claims.

Appreciate you leaving a comment about your experience or questions about Specialized Kinesiology and be sure to check back for more helpful posts like this.

 

 

Spanking, Yes or No

This is such a huge topic that parents will come across during their parenting career.

To Spank or not Spank, that is the question… 

The other night I was inspired to make this video, watch below and make your comment here this blog post on your views

 

I will openly confess that I used to think that spanking was okay and totally justified it as being something that had to be done, that I had to “show” my children that I was the “boss”!  That they had to obey me and listen to me or else for this is what my vision of a successful parent was.  I thought that they were mine to control and they had to respect me or else!

With deep learning and studying from entering into the 9 Ways Program by Maggie Reigh I started to see that maybe I could change my views on the topic of discipline and the whole idea of spanking, as it always felt wrong to me and I would be left feeling guilty and torn apart on the inside… This is such a vulnerable moment putting my self out here in this post…I used to not make posts like this for fear of being judged by others, now I see that it’s time that I share from my own experiences knowing there are other parents that need help and are looking for support in the area of parenting.

Parenting can bring out the best in us and the worst in us, it’s one of the only jobs where you just don’t have the option to punch out and leave the job site.  There’s no pause or rewind, just like time it keeps on ticking.

Since taking the course years ago, I was inspired to take it again for repetition is the mother of skill and now have become a facilitator of the 9 ways program to reach more parents to help the future be the best it can be.  I started to see how using spanking was only creating respectable children that feared the physical discipline and not really respecting me as their mother.  I didn’t like how I felt either nor the look in their eye, the crying and the emotional roller coaster ride during the after effects.9 Ways

I won’t complain about my childhood for it’s created the essence of my being and now I truly understand that we can only do our best with what we know.  Spanking was something that was done to me and so I started to repeat the cycle… I understand now that I am a chain breaker and my parenting is just one area where I can break a cycle…. Spanking is one of those links that I have broken and I am celebrating.  I now feel there’s a deeper connection to my children and that they respect me because it’s their choice.  This empowers me greatly as a human being not just a mother.

I truly believe that when we have the desire to learn more, we can do better and evolve from the past.  Having this shift in my belief system has  gifted me so many opportunities to grow as a human being, a woman, a mother of 4 and a wife.

Competition can inspire us to reach for higher levels and help to create a better version of ourselves, so when it comes to parenting, it’s not about competing with our parents but to be in a position to learn from our childhood experiences and see where we can influence changes to improve the future.

I love my parents deeply and understand that they did their best from what they learned and understood what it was to be a parent from the generations before them.

After making the video for Facebook the other night, I spent some time looking for other articles to back up my thoughts about what spanking does… here are a few links that I wanted to share with you that I found interesting.  I am sure there are more articles for me to add as time goes, check them out and feel free to add in the comments below items you have on this topic.

  • https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/moral-landscapes/201309/research-spanking-it-s-bad-all-kids
  • https://quinmendoker.wordpress.com/2014/09/26/the-pros-and-cons-of-parents-spanking-their-children/
  • http://parentadvice.net/the-pros-and-cons-of-spanking-your-child/

Thank you for taking the time to consider this topic, to share with other parents that are on the fence on how to discipline their children.  We get this opportunity to impact the future by doing our best as parents, remember we are in this together